Do you live in a house with your kids and your mother and father? For some cultures this is a very common scenario and in Canada it is becoming more common throughout every culture. You many think this is a very good thing or the thought of it may fill you with terror, but there are negatives and positives to living with extended family. I want to show you a couple of them in this feature. If moving in with extended family is something you are looking to do shortly, hopefully this article can give you an insight into what to expect.
Let's begin by looking at the positive side.
-sharing the financial burden of owning a property, is one of the good points of this type of living. With large homes, where families only meet in a couple of rooms, then it probably won't make as much financial sense.
-you are living with your whole family surrounding you. A warm family environment with good, close relationships is another benefit.
-the financial pressure of babysitters or childcare could be alleviated, when there is lots of individuals living under one roof there is bound to be someone who is available. The older generations are able to support or advise the younger generations, especially with regard to bringing up a kid.
-the older generations may have health problems, consequently the younger members of the home can support them to living independently as much as possible. On the flip side, the older members could cook while the younger generation is at work – reciprocal help is the key.
-the older individual can feel lonely, primarily if they are housebound or have lost their life partner. We all need a shoulder to lean on at times, living with your whole family can help assuage that loneliness of becoming older.
Let's now think about the bad side.
-some of you might feel like they have no real independent time, like they are never really alone.
-parents and grandparents could feel that you are intruding in their lives, or you may feel that they are intruding in yours all the time.
-disagreements about bringing up the children (the grandparents are treating them too much and so on).
worries of being compared to other family members is not a nice emotion to feel, primarily if it's your partners family you are living with and not your own.
-different generations see things in a different way, so this could be a hard adjustment to deal with. Naturally, it is important to live in a house, which is capable of accommodating more generations Forest Hill real estate is great for this.
Rules need to be set up before entering into this kind of situation, there are lots of other points to think about that I haven't covered, as a family it's up to you how you deal with it. Honesty is extremely important, though. If you know you could never dream living in such a property, do not do so just because your husband or wife wants you to. When all said and done, if you are miserable then other people are going to feel that, which makes for a very strained home and relationships could break down.